Wednesday, July 30, 2008

Motivational Sucess - Robbins is a lesson in Advanced Presentation Skills

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Now love him or hate him, Tony Robbins is like a walking master class in the art of presentations. There are times in this video where you can see he is on complete auto-pilot and other times he switches to interact with the audience. Look at his body language and non-verbal gestures.

When is he on auto-pilot and when is he truely engaging?

Notice also the speed of his delivery. He is slightly nervous at the beginning. But he gets into his rythym midway and the audience are left with the feeling that they have just witnessed a great presentation.

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Thursday, July 24, 2008

Effective negotiation: where top sales people go wrong

My other half works in an extremely fast growing internet company. Weekly I hear him discuss the sales approach of almost every sales person walking through the door and it reminds me of my own experiences which were much the same.

The sales person comes in, fires up powerpoint. Generally they are OKAY on the interpersonal skills (not great), well turned out, and professional. However, they then fire up powerpoint and take you through the same ridiculous process:

“we are company XYZ, here are the same slides I show everyone else (if I really want to look good, I add your logo or some of your webpages). We were established in xxxx (who cares?). We are the leading company in (service). We have lots of big clients (unrelated to your industry as you are just another company). Therefore we are great at what we do. Here’s, therefore, what we can do for you by listing our standard product range…basically the same thing as we did for all the rest.”

This goes on for ten minutes typically without any interaction from the client. At this point, one of the client’s management team strats to ask questions, often related to the lack of presentational relevance of their business. The salesperson is tired as its there third presentation that day, stressed, and annoyed that its obviously a different scenario from the list of unrelated clients that they have presented before them. But its accepted as the status que, so the client actually can feel awkward asking these obvious questions and the salesperson rightly aggrieved in their own mind.

I watched a video on Youtube recently which I now cannot find!!!! It was by an American business coach who hit the nail on the head when it comes to this scenario. She said “imagine the average sales pitch as a date”.

Now this really shows how lousy this approach is, and yet every sales person in the UK seems to follow it!

She asks us to imagine going out on a date, exchanging niceties and sitting through:

“I am great..,, I studied at X, joined X, I was promoted, founded a company, achieved x, y,z, turnover x million / billion, etc. Now because I did all of this, I would be really great for you, because you are like all the other women /men out there. Any questions now after ten minutes of talking about myself?”

The parallels between the two approaches are obvious and that is why most sales people, and most dates “convert” in the low single figure percentages, and especially in the average market where competition is strong.

Now imagine a sales pitch or dinner date which involves “the audience”. A good salesperson or “dater” will shown an interest in the other person. They do this by asking lots of relevant questions (not too deep to begin with!), verbally nodding, smiling, holding eye contact for a natural period of time, acting interested but not overbearing, etc. Imagine the impact of these basic skills on sales performance by keeping to these basics. On my sales and negotiation courses, I regularly stun experienced sales directors, executives, and managers by taking them back to basics. They do not realise what their own actions. They cannot believe the bad habits they have fallen into. Then I hit them with all the secret skills and techniques they never imagined to exist!

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Tuesday, July 22, 2008

Advanced communication skills and personal space

In the video below, Elizabeth Clark and Jon Hotowka demonstrate the three zones that you must be aware of when working a room or networking. What’s really interesting is to understand some of the background of why distance is important

Why is distance important?

In the public zone, distance creates the feeling of safety. This is the same with gorillas as when another gorilla is at distance, there are no surprise attacks (or the chances of success are low!).

The social zone is closer and will allow basic communication to take place e.g. waving and saying hello to someone at a bus stop but with no intention of talking to them as you stand at the other end.

Now in the final zone; the intimate (threat) zone (Elizabeth has left out the personal zone for good reason, more later) you will basically be wanting to do one of two things:

1) You want to get intimate
2) You want them to feel threatenedand why you must avoid the intimate zone unless.

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Sunday, July 20, 2008

Business networking tips - how to approach groups and strangers

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Business networking guru Elizabeth Clark shows how to successfully approach strangers and groups. Discover the 3 zones of business networking, and the critical one which you must master or avoid!

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Saturday, July 12, 2008

Booking speakers - how anyone can save 20%

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Thursday, July 3, 2008

Confidence is important because…………


” if you act confident, you will appear confident. If you appear confident, people will react to you in a confident manner. This in turn will make you confident.”

Me (circa 2002) on BBC1

I get more traffic to my website searching and enquiring about confidence training than any other query. Confidence is a hugely admired trait which differs to arrogance. Why is this distinction important?

Well arrogance does tend to rub others the wrong way. But it also displays weakness to anyone with a little life experience. Swagger and aloofness are signs of insecurity. A confident person knows their own strengths but is always willing to add to them and will be open to learning. They also know and openly acknowledge their weaknesses and will defer to those who are more knowledgeable. Take a look at my confidence training advice and tips for more information on the art of confidence. So how do we start to practise being confident without being arrogant?

Well I always get my delegates to use the James Bond Method to act confidently. Its great fun and gets you started. Walk up and down like James Bond would i.e. chin high, back straight, with a good stride. Arms are relaxed but not ungainly.

Practical real world Bond example……………entering a room and making a great entrance:

Now I want you you to visualise how James Bond makes an entrance into a crowded room where he doesn’t actually know anyone. It goes something like this.

He stands right at the entrance to the door, pauses for a couple of seconds (so everyone gets to look at him), smiles at the middle of the room (as if he has seen someone he knows well) and eyebrow flash to anyone who makes eye contact as he moves to get a drink. Now this is a very brief, if detailed overview. For more specific how to information, I recommend these flirting products.

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Tuesday, July 1, 2008

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Man dies whilst public speaking…caused by excessive nerves

Not really……well not that I know of.

But why is the fear of public speaking one of the biggest fears in modern life. I read a recent survey that said 42% of people feared public speaking above all else!!! How scary, sort of understandable, but highly ridiculous is that? Of all the things in life to be scared of…public speaking?

And why does this occur? From childhood we are often told to be quiet, to stop whinging when we are not. We’re told that we can’t do things; by teachers, parents, other adults, classmates, and our friends. THEN WE GET TO OUR WORKING LIVES, and that all changes all of sudden. Now we have to confidently speak in front of our peers and superiors. Or make a best man speech to a room full of people that in the main, are often unfamiliar too us. We feel we must be funny, at least amusing and then at the same time, not offend nor bore anyone.

Now its not now such a mystery. If we were a speaking athlete, due to appear at our olympics, be that work, family ceremony, sales conference, etc, we’ve had the worse possible training. We’ve become mentally attuned to having a negative association with the whole speaking experience. Then we’ve had our performances in public, often during school classes, pulled apart by those who are meant to be coaching us, the teachers. And if that’s not all, its then been re-inforced by family and “friends”. Our visualisation then becomes based upon those previously poor experiences. We feel our hearts race, that empty stomach feeling kicks in, and then we step up onto the stage with hundreds of people looking at us, expectingly……………

In reality, things are that difficult if we get into tip top speaker’s shape. And given the above, you can only get better and better. However, some people try to wing it by relying on their spontaneity; they believe this will give them an edge and also avoid having to look at notes. However, as the SAS say “P**s poor planning leads to p*ss poor performance” or as I prefer “practise makes perfect”. I found that relaxed far more by rehearsing my lines again and again and by speaking in front of a small group of friends or relatives wherever I could. Your local area is bound to have a speakers association somewhere nearby. You can get great feedback in front of other speakers who all know how exactly how hard it is when you are new to speaking.

And like anything in life, the more you practise being a keynote speaker, the better you will get. In the next few days, I will reveal some more great tips that have continued to serve me well during my speaking career.

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Sunday, June 29, 2008

Blog Rush…………..

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Thursday, June 26, 2008

Business Body Language


This has become something of an annual message from me, but the penny still isn’t dropping, even if the necklines are.
In an ideal world women would be able to wear what they want and men wouldn’t be in the least bit distracted or interested. Unsurprisingly men are human, which means they are physiologically attracted, and are instinctively drawn to colour and shape, i.e. cleavage. Most women wouldn’t mind the ogling if all men looked like Brad Pitt, however most men sadly don’t. The only woman I know who never has anyone ogle her assets in her presence is Jodie Marsh. She says there is always so much of her on show that men can’t bear to look. However on a TV show we were filming, they had her all covered up as they were trying to portray Jodie as a serious presenter - there’s a message there ladies.
I’ve put a short video clip on the website for more info on how to handle this delicate matter. business body language tips . In the meanwhile, chaps the onus is on you to concentrate on your eye contact ( tips to the right) if you don’t want to lose business, and ladies, if you want to be taken seriously, show a little decorum.
In contrast to bad body language, effective non verbal communication can convert more presentations, help you interpret your clients thoughts, and get you better deals in negotiation, to name but a few. Check out what our business body language sessions could do to enhance your performance.

Now this weekend, I have a special guide coming out. If you are a public speaker wanting incredible public speaking tips and audience participation, I am going to show you exactly how its done on video with a real, live audience. If you are looking to hire a great public speaker, I have something for you as well.

See you soon

Elizabeth


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